How Long Should You Date Before Getting Married?

Think you found “the one”? Whether you’ve been dating for years or are still enjoying the honeymoon phase, it is only natural to start thinking about marriage when you form a strong relationship with someone. If you have only been dating for a few months, you might feel as though you are ready to get married but worried about what the outside world might think. Even if it feels right at the moment, is this a relationship that will last through hardship down the road? 

The truth is, there’s no concrete amount of time that every couple must spend together before getting married. Some couples are ready to marry in months, while others may take years. But here are a few hallmarks that can give you a sense of a couple that is ready to get married.

Experience Major Life Events Together

The amount of time you have spent with someone matters much less than the number of experiences you have had alongside each other. Have you experienced any major life events with your significant other that have helped you understand how they react in pressing situations? These experiences can range from buying a house to adopting a new dog. You will want to be sure that you have experienced a few major life events together so that you know how your person responds when times get tough. 

Living and Cohabiting Together

This may not be for everyone; it goes against some religious beliefs to live with your significant other prior to getting married. However, if this does not apply to you, we highly recommend cohabitating with your significant other to see if your relationship can withstand the test of time! 

Living with other people is not always easy. We’ve all had roommates that have been less than perfect over the years. To find out if you are compatible with your significant other, try living with each other and comparing lifestyles. If you are able to survive six months under the same roof without killing each other, this is a good sign!

Align on Money, Religion, and Politics 

Our world is filled with differences, and our varying opinions are what makes us all so unique. However, relationships that have differing core values have been shown to last a shorter amount of time when compared to couples with similar beliefs

Whether you agree with your partner on difficult topics such as money, religion, and politics, or not, we recommend you have these tricky conversations with one another prior to popping the question. Even if you disagree, you want to be sure that your partner is respectful of your views and beliefs. You also want to be able to find compromise in their differing opinions, too!

Meeting The Family

Have you ever heard of the saying, “you marry the family”? Whether you like it or not, this statement can be extremely relevant in married couples. Before getting married to your partner, you’ll want to see where they came from and meet their family. Make sure that you are at some point able to get face-to-face with their parents, siblings, guardians, and any other mentors they’ve had in their life. This will tell you a lot about where they came from, why they think the way that you do, and to give you a taste of what your spouse might be like in the future. 

If you decide to legally wed this individual, their family members will be a part of your life for a very long time. It is important to see if you can picture a future with their family members, as this is a crucial part of building a strong relationship for some couples. 

Keep It Reasonable

If you have to ask yourself if it is too soon to get married, this might be a sign that you are rushing into things. Before deciding to commit your life to another person, you’ll want to be extremely confident in your decision to do so. If the amount of time you have been dating feels unreasonable to jump into marriage, listen to your gut. The right person will wait until you both are ready to move forward to the next step in your relationship. 

If you do decide that now is the right time to move to the next step with your person, Fan C Designs is here to help! Explore the best collection of bridal wear, wedding tips, and everything you need to know before your special day.

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